He isn't defected. The army is.

In my civillian job, no boss would find it appropriate to comment on how sexy I look this morning, and whether or not I should put on more perfume.
I never had to say I dislike it, it just that no one here would find it appropriate.

During my army service on the other hand, those comments are a usual matter, and when I said that I find them inappropriate they thought that its probably because I'm a very strange girl who doesn't want to look sexy.

Its a matter of social standards and those standards are very diffrent in the army, in my opinion to the worse (although some think that the overly close and informal conduct in the army is prefered)

Are you sure you're not generalizing a tad too much. I'm a geek who had studied high-school Physics with two girls (eventually - there used to be more, but they left), and I don't like the implied allegation.