I think the point made by both Ayelet and Esti, before everyone got upset, is that one must be very cautious when criticizing other people's family choices based on the way one phrase or another was articulated on the internet. I'm sure many of us can't boast perfect writing in every single Ayal message.

The point delivered by "almana veyatom" was the strong pressure put on her to nurse the baby, when a different arrangement would have worked better with her life (of which we know nothing). What was upsetting in your reaction was that you caught on to a marginal issue and nitpicked on it to the extent of mounting quite an offensive criticism on the lifestyle of a person you (and I, for that matter) know nothing about.

If no one minds, I'd like to use this incident to point out something that we should perhaps keep in mind more when responding on Haayal. The discussion culture here encourages people to nitpick on others and read text - not just content - very carefully to "catch" contradictions and inaccuracies in the other person's message. Some may be happier with this culture than others (me, I'm one of the less happy. Most of the time I don't enjoy nitpicking unless it's truly educational); but even in a place that encourages this type of discourse, there is one place where more caution might not be obsolete: when picking on minor remarks to personally criticize one of the participants. I see a lot of it here and it's one of the major things that spoils my otherwise fun Ayal experience.

Sorry for getting all "educational"; I'm just reading your comment, and the comments that follow, and for some reason felt the need to stop a personally offensive "collision course".

I'll crawl back to my corner. G'day, everyone.

What you said about the broken relationships between "people with children" and "people without children". These relationships get so loaded with stereotyps and lack of communication that it really gets sad. Whereas some parents look at people with no children as people who have "stayed behind", as if whoever is not a parent ("yet"!) is underdeveloped in some way, and negate any other alleys for personal growth and service to others and the community, some people without children treat their parent friends as if they'd undergone a lobotomy and cannot be engaged in anything except diapers.

It's sad, really.